I would dare say no one signs up for this
life. While many of us are military spouses or parents, we know well the worst
case scenarios that might happen when our loved ones go off to war. But in
reality, when the days, weeks, months, and years after the war and accidents
have come and gone, many of us search for peace and joy in the smallest of
Maybe we didn’t sign up for it, but we are Caregivers
We are the wives, mothers, children, spouses, friends, and more, who fill the gaps for our loved ones. We support them. We may be
their eyes, ears, hands, companions, and chauffeurs. Often we wear the hat of
cook and cleaner, master scheduler of the home, taxi driver for the kids, and
accountant of our finances.
Life can suck us dry if we let it. Life throws hard punches and we fight back.
How do we fight back? We advocate for our veteran…for the person we provide
care for. We assist them in everything they need help with from dressing and
dishing out medicine, to helping him or her be more independent.
So what can we do for ourselves when we feel like we are worn thin? We can take a
long and steamy bath. Take a moment. Take two minutes to relax. Read a good
book or sit outside and listen to the birds. Relish our cup of coffee with no
I can slice a lemon for my glass of water, savor the fresh, clean smell as I
cut it, squeeze all the juice out that I can and add it to a pretty pitcher or
glass. Enjoy it. Experience it. I could hastily run the tap quickly and guzzle
a plastic cup full of aqua down, as I do frequently…or I can turn this
everyday moment into a treat.
can bask in the almost
silence around me. I can experience the warmness from my hands holding the cup,
to the creamy liquid coursing down my throat as I enjoy the moment I am making
for me….just me.
What’s going on around you at this very moment?
Do you hear the dishwasher or the hum of the air conditioner? Do you hear
chirping outside your window? Is the TV playing in a room close by? Is a child
making noise or are cars zooming by within earshot?
Take a moment to ground yourself in the present. Be aware. Be mindful.
Experience life and find some way to make the average extraordinary. Find a way
to find peace and joy in your day….even if it only takes two minutes.