A Military Spouse Is… 

The saying “married to the military” holds some truth for military spouses. Service members don’t serve alone. They serve with their spouses, and with their family. It takes a particular kind of person to be a military spouse, one that is is supportive, proud, courageous, resourceful, patient, flexible, resilient and dedicated. It is not a commitment for the faint or weak. Military spouses grow to meet the challenges this everchanging life throws at them and bloom whenever they are planted.


1| Supportive 

A military spouse is supportive of not only their service member and children but also of other military spouses and their families. They know firsthand what it’s like to move to a new community or to be left to keep the house running while their service member is on their first or third deployment.  No matter what the circumstance is, it is comforting to know that you have fellow military spouses who are also in your shoes or can relate to you and will offer you help, support and encouragement.  They are there to help and support other spouses who are also going through those same experiences. 


“The military may take you away from your family, but it does a great job at providing you a one. Through my years of being a military spouse, I’ve made lifelong friends that have stood by my side through thick and thin. I know no matter where the military sends us, I will find genuine and kind spouses who will greet my family with open arms. It’s true- you can never explain the bond between military spouses.” – Kristy Schwartz, Social Media Coordinator


2| Proud 

Proud to be an American. Proud of their spouse. Proud to be a military spouse. Proud to serve our country. Military spouses have a lot to be proud of, and they show it.  

“Moments like this make all the hard times worthwhile, you can see it in my face, right? A picture’s worth a thousand words. I couldn’t be more proud of this man for his honor and commitment to our country. I’d follow him anywhere. We all do, don’t we?!” – Andrea Pastel, Volunteer Program Manager with husband, Teague during his 1/11 Change of Command Ceremony January 2015.

3| Courageous 

New things can be terrifying. Deployments can be terrifying. Not knowing can be terrifying. But military spouses are strong and courageous, they own the terrifying. 


For many military families, like the Jones’ Family, this is their first family picture. “Behind every strong soldier, there is an even stronger spouse who will stand by them, support them and love them unconditionally”

4| Resourceful 

A military spouse makes the most with what they have.  They know how to use what they’ve got and where to find new resources. Most importantly, they are always willing to share those valuable resources with their fellow military families. Check out our resources! 

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On December 7, 2012, two military spouses, Robin Kelleher and Shannon Maxwell, had the opportunity to cut the ribbon at the Warrior Hope and Care Center, home of Wounded Warrior Battalion East aboard Camp Lejeune. When tragedy struck their community and injured Marines and their families had limited resources, they turned ideas into actions and achieved incredible things, like this center and establishing Hope For The Warriors.

5| Patient 

Patience is a virtue. Even though patience can be one of the hardest things to keep, a military spouse knows how to be (impatiently) patient, because they have to be. Without it, frustration, anxiety and fear can build up and can get you stuck in the world of what if. Patience isn’t something that comes naturally. Patience is a developed trait – why?  Because we are always waiting…waiting on orders (with a gut feeling we will end up somewhere like 29 Palms)…waiting to book a family vacation because leave blocks will change five times…waiting for the notification that deployment is extended. Military life is a constant waiting game.   


“It’s hard to be the one always waiting. I mean, there’s something to be said for the hero who charges off to battle, but when you get right down to it. There’s a whole story in who’s left behind,”

6| Flexible 

Change is the only constant in the military. A military spouse is flexible and able to accommodate last minute changes, deployments and days in the field. They have to go with the flow and continue living their lives even when their service member is on duty or deployed. 


“When an unexpected drill weekend causes your husband to miss your 10th Anniversary getaway and it’s too late to refund your airfare, your military spouse friends come from all corners of the USA to celebrate your anniversary with you.”- Jordan Huffman, Hope For The Warriors


7| Resilient 

“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” It’s the military spouse’s ability to keep it together when their kids ask a million times, “where’s daddy?” It’s their ability to handle all the things that go wrong when Murphy’s Law strikes. It’s their ability to handle any unforeseen circumstance. It may not be handled with tact…but it gets handled. Change is inevitable when it comes to military life. It’s how a military spouse endures the change and hardship that makes them resilient. 


The military life is completely unpredictable…Sometimes your orders to PCS get canceled 24 hours before the moving trucks come to take your household goods across the country. What can you do? Adapt and overcome!

8| Dedicated 

A military spouse is dedicated to their service member and to serving their country by holding down the homefront. Dedication and love are what keeps them going, even when they’re exhausted. Tired of deployments, tired of moving, tired of the unknown – they keep pressing on. Their faith and perseverance are what hold together their family allowing their service member to focus solely on mission readiness.  


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. Corinthians 1:13


If you’re a military spouse, we thank you, we honor you and we are here to support you. Read here for more information about out our organization and apply for services.